Life after Death

No, I am not talking about heaven or hell. I am talking about living after someone you love has died. Living is hard on the easiest of days. You already have the stress of a normal day. The comings and goings of work or school, or the Haz-Mat unit needed to deal with your children. It is the nature of life to be hard.

What I am speaking of is living when you feel like your world has slipped into a black hole. Where the pressures of the grief and sorrow you feel press into you like an eternal vice. It feels like a weight on your soul that is doing its best to squeeze the life out of you. You feel like the world has stopped at this moment and it will never move again.

Believe me in this, it is a temporary feeling. You world will restart. It will not have the same motion, but it will move again. What you need to think of is what that person would have wanted for you. Think of what that person felt for you, and what you felt for that person. Respect that. Remember that they wanted the best for you and to do otherwise would only sully their memory. Do your best to make your life mean something. live life to the fullest. Do your best to live your life in dedication to them. Try to make your life mean enough just by living it that it makes the memory of them proud. They have died yes. And it will hurt for a long time. But what you must understand is that your life is no longer just yours. Their memory is now a permanent part of your life. Live for them as well as for yourself. It is the best gift you can give them. To make sure that you live, and let the love you have for them show through in the life you live.

A Comment about our Staff.

Almost our entire staff is dealing with finals week at the moment so bear with us. As soon as finals are over then we plan to jump back into the site with both feet.

Sidea Rene - Relationships and Life Subjects
Laughingcoyote - Politics and World News
Nightbrngr - Social Thoughts and Entertainment.

Feel free to comment to us about a subject you would like to see addressed here. We are always open to suggestions from our readers.

Where has the honor gone?

Here is my problem. Today, people have forgotten the meaning of honor. A promise means nothing to most. We have gone from a time where a person can go to a bank, shake a hand, give his word and be accepted..to a time where a person will file legal action to avoid paying a bill he knows he can pay. What happened. I admit...this is not the case all the time. Yet it seems to me that it is the accepted norm. Well....I for one don't accept it. I see no reason for us as a race, us as a people to have de-evolved in such a way. In fuedal Japan, Medieval Europe, Historic Russia, and most of the rest of the damned world...a persons honor was all they had. If you wanted to commit a crime that would ostrisize you from the populous, you broke your word. After that, no-one would dare to speak to you. In todays society a promise is too easily broken, and most people don't think twice about it. Honor is to me a fundemental part of what makes us human. It is a defining characteristic. How is it so easily tossed aside. So my question is...Where has the Honor gone?

My Weekly Book list.

Here's my list of recommended books for this week.
12/03/2006 - 12/09/2006

Robert Jordan's "The Eye of the World"
Margaret Weis and Tracy Hickman's "Dragons of Autumn Twilight"
Stephen King's "Rose Madder"

This is not my America.

This is a crime in the America I know. Criminals, no matter who they are, are punished in that America. Torture is a heinous violation of human rights, not a method of interrogation, in that country.

What does your America look like?

Relationships in the 21st century.

People these days have very strange views on relationships. Relationships now tend to lean more to money and social standing then actual feelings. I can't quite understand this. People look at me very strangely because my fiance is 11 years older then me, almost to the day. What I say to people on this is simple, "If the person you are with right now suddenly aged 20 years over night would you stop loving them because they are now older then they were?" Most people say no to this comment, but I have had a few say that they would. Ask yourself this. Is it really love if age is a factor?

Race also tends to be a huge factor in relationships now. While both I am my fiance are both of the same race I have dated outside of my race before and had very good relationships. Frankly my point on race is this. If I fall in love with a person they can be pink with purple pokadots and I would still love them just the same.

What about social status caused by money? The vow of marriage states "For better or worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part." Um..For richer or for poorer means you love them enough to stay with them even if they go broke. If you can't accept that then don't get married!

Finally what about GLBT? I have a strong stand on this because I happen to be bisexual and I understand just how much these new laws have affected us. My stand on these laws is simple. You say marriage is a union between a man and a woman that love each other. Shouldn't there be a lie detector test for this? I mean come on. If you can let people marry for money, than why not let two people that honestly care about each other get married? What does it matter to you if they are two females or two males? You're not part of their relationship so keep your nose out of it if you don't approve.

To close I just want to say that relationships should be a matter of the heart. Love is not a matter of social standing, money, race, age, or anything other then just that. Love.