People these days have very strange views on relationships. Relationships now tend to lean more to money and social standing then actual feelings. I can't quite understand this. People look at me very strangely because my fiance is 11 years older then me, almost to the day. What I say to people on this is simple, "If the person you are with right now suddenly aged 20 years over night would you stop loving them because they are now older then they were?" Most people say no to this comment, but I have had a few say that they would. Ask yourself this. Is it really love if age is a factor?
Race also tends to be a huge factor in relationships now. While both I am my fiance are both of the same race I have dated outside of my race before and had very good relationships. Frankly my point on race is this. If I fall in love with a person they can be pink with purple pokadots and I would still love them just the same.
What about social status caused by money? The vow of marriage states "For better or worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part." Um..For richer or for poorer means you love them enough to stay with them even if they go broke. If you can't accept that then don't get married!
Finally what about GLBT? I have a strong stand on this because I happen to be bisexual and I understand just how much these new laws have affected us. My stand on these laws is simple. You say marriage is a union between a man and a woman that love each other. Shouldn't there be a lie detector test for this? I mean come on. If you can let people marry for money, than why not let two people that honestly care about each other get married? What does it matter to you if they are two females or two males? You're not part of their relationship so keep your nose out of it if you don't approve.
To close I just want to say that relationships should be a matter of the heart. Love is not a matter of social standing, money, race, age, or anything other then just that. Love.
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To me, relationships are a waste. I, for one, don't involve myself with them. I am a single guy, and plan to stay that way till either A) I die, or B) I fall madly in love with someone and can't see life in the far future without them. Now for B to happen, that would take time and work. I'm willing to put fourth the effort to do that, but is the other person?
I am a difficult person to live with in the sense that, I do what i want weather other people agree with it or not. I'm my own person and don't need someone to tell me what to do. Thats what a follower does and they tend to go nowhere in life. I make my own path and i pay the consequences when it's a bad one, and reap the benefits when it's a good one. I don't want to take the consequences for someone else's mistake.
I do agree, marriage is a bond that should not be broken. Divorce should have a stipulation that those two people can no longer be married because they broke an original vow. I also agree, that age, social status, money, and race should not be an issue. The only 2 relationships i've had were with an African American, and a Hispanic, and I happen to be a white guy. The first relationship didn't work out cause he family didn't approve and she listened to them. The second relation worked out, however her family still didn't approve, but she didn't care. That relationship fell through only because i had to move because of work and she wasn't able to leave. We still talk and still are friends, but the relationship didn't work because the distance and work schedules wouldn't allow time for us to even talk for an hour a week.
As for gay marriages, i've got mixed opinions about that, but those are just mine. I happen to live with 3 gay guys (i am straight), and they are happy not being married to each other. They don't feel the need to legally bond with each other to stay together. I've seen them all and how they act and they act just like any married couple would. They have their good times and their bad times, but they work them out together. And to them, finances are one of the last things they worry about. Of course they pay their mortgage, car payments, and utilities, but thats all they make sure they get done and don't worry about the small things like, "OMG We have no money to goto the movies", or "Why the **** did you spend $XX.XX on ____". They ask each other if it would be alright to purchase the item, if it's not at the time they find a way to make it work and they do it. (I know that little part had nothing to do with the marriage, but it had to do with the finances a little).
But all in all, i still say relationships are a waste of time. If you're like my i have the perfect girlfriend/boyfriend for ya. Mine is about 2' tall and stands on 4 legs. She is happy to see me every day when i come home, doesn't care what i buy, and is never mad at me. Her name is Tippy and she is a 2 year old Beagle.
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